For anyone who doesn't know or understand R.A.D. here is a quick synopsis. For anyone who doesn't want to read my rantings and ravings about this topic please stop now and move on to another blog. :)
Unfortunately, RAD is very real and very active in our lives. However, to be fair, our RAD does not present as a normal RAD case. (Of course not, we never do anything by the book. LOL!) Our child has another layer on top as there is mental disability as well. It's very hard for us to distinguish what is real RAD behaviors and what is honest-to-goodness-I-have-no- clue-what-I'm-doing due to mental impairment/judgement. Fun, I tell ya!
Now, I love roller coasters (or at least I did back in the day) but if you rode one all day long without a break for years on end, I'm pretty certain you'd be sick and would not want to see or ride one EVER again! Well....that pretty much sums up most of our days around here and I am really so sick of riding this coaster! Sorry to whine but it's the truth.
Let me give you some brief snapshots into our days. These are just bits and pieces that make up a much larger, harder, consuming, overwhelming picture!
You know, I was going to but what's the point?! I don't want my blog to be negative, whiny and/or shaming my child. THAT IS NOT MY INTENTION. My intention is to share that life is hard and some days really wear me down. I know I'm not alone in parenting a hurt child (or two!) but boy it certainly feels like it! There is such a stigma in the Christian community to sharing openly and honestly our struggles not just with parenting traumatized children but in every area of life.....marriage struggles, financial worries, prodigal children, broken relationships, past pain. We fear if we share others will judge us (some will) and/or our reputation as a strong Christian will be impaired. But isn't that what Christ told us to do? Share our burdens with one another? Lift one another up in prayer? Encourage one another? Love one another? Do not judge? Can I get an amen??
Too many good Christian homes are being terrorized and destroyed by RAD children because the help just isn't there. I don't want to be one of those statistics! We are fighting hard to stay strong in the midst of this never-ending storm but goodness we are soooo weary.
I need help. I need fresh ideas, fresh strategies. I need resources to draw from. I need a VACATION! (just me, a good book and the beach!) LOL!
So, come on moms....don't leave me hanging. Share with me your best advice/help/prayers. PLEASE!!
I promise the next post will be much more encouraging. :)